Speech for Mr Ohio Leather 2015

After some time and work, I came up with my speech. It was to be 90 seconds so not a lot of time to convey what you want. I feel this represented me and what I was trying to convey.


Ownership, I am not talking about owning a boy, or slave, I am talking about owning who you are. Standing up for yourself, not letting circumstances, events, or other people tell you can’t do something.


Ownership, telling others that even if they don’t look the way you do, everyone is still valuable and have much to offer the community.


Ownership, showing that diversity is the key to fraternity.


Ownership, showing that your kink isn’t my kink but that is what makes it all work.


Ownership, showing with actions rather than just words that we can build a better community.


Ownership, knowing that when we own who we are, we can become a leader.


Ownership, realizing that we all have self-doubt, and struggle with wanting to be accepted for who we are, and that is a part of life and it is ok to stumble, but don't let it hinder you.


Own who you are, what you are, what you do, what makes you you!

We all deserve to experience a life of joy, freedom, and completeness. Just don’t give up, take ownership of who and what you are.


Stand up and be proud. Be Owned.

Leather UNITED

Pride, what does it do to you?

So I went to Milwaukee Pridefest this past weekend. I was not prepared for the experience I have to say. I was blown away by the crowds of people, the friendliness and the sense of pride they have. The part where it was held was amazing. Plenty of room to move lots of people. The entertainment was good but the attendees made it. I met a friend that lives there, Bruce aka "Brutus the Rott" and he was my tour guide and co-conspirator. We decided to go in gear on Saturday, and couldn't go ten feet without bing stopped for a pic.

The bars were a blast as well and I did become accustom to the Wisconsin pour.  Then it was Sunday. The parade Brutus was official photographer.  I decided to see if the bear group would let me match with them. They said yes and gave me a "sleepy cap" and a flag to carry .  Their theme was "bears in Dreamland, Dreaming for a Better Tomorrow". 

 

I was touched by how friendly they were, but floored by the crowds. Families with kids, supporters, all together cheering us on.  It touched me then and even more now.  After walking the parade I came back up to watch the rest with the crowd.  At the end was the Pride Flag. I had not seen one in person this large, only in pictures.  It moved me, I was choked up. I felt pride and unity that I have only felt at Inferno before or with my FD at 9-11.  It started that thought again, I need ! No have to give back to the community.  Not sure the road but a journey of 1000 miles begins with one step.  I contacted Mr. Friendly to see about starting a chapter outreach in Toledo.  It starts with a drop, but over time those drops of water can erode the oldest of establishments.

I leave you with this image, not the best maybe for you, but I took it, it was my brothers I meet who opened up to me, it is our pride, it is the start of me.

So it has been a while since I posted. I hope to change that. Things have been a bit crazy. Strange times in the cycle. I have injured my back, recovering from that. Enjoyed both CLAW and IML. Bought new toys, to which I will post pictures and review of eventually (Grin). So what is new? Lots to pile througth so bear with me as I step through it piece by piece. Hugs, Tugs and Smoke for ya.

2013 in Review....

So it is 2013 now. I have read a lot of status updates of friends on here. Lot of people seems to have had a bad year, but some have not. I have heard people complaining about everything, others saying what a great year it was, and other say basically said grow up and be grateful for what you have (those tend to be the ones that have had a good year so a bit of a grain of salt there). So here is my version of the year for me.

Looking at the good and bad things putting them down on paper and reviewing them, I have to say that yes overall it was a very bad year for me. While there were things that went well, they are far out shadowed by the things that did not and have left me less than what I started the year to be, except for my weight. I have let people/companies walk over me without doing much about it. I have probably said things I shouldn’t have to people. I have had old acquaintances find me and I have lost friends and family. I gained weight that I had lost, I tried to better myself but in some respect failed, I have tried to do good deeds but who knows if they succeeded. So, as I sit and look back, no it wasn’t a very good year for me.

So what for this next year? Plans? Goals? Resolutions? Not sure. Only thing I have decided is that this is the year of me. Not that I am going to be self-centered, but I think I need to repair me. I need to do things that I enjoy and that help me as well as others. What will this entail? I don’t know yet, but I will be making changes. What will be the end game? I am hoping a better person that treats me as well as others. So if I am quiet, if I am loud, if I am defiant, if I am resolute you will know why. It is a process.

The Bible Tells Me So .....

When it comes to people saying that the bible preaches against Homosexuality, I assume they are referring to Leviticus 18:6 “You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female. It is an abomination” Also in black and white in the bible are other items that people are to follow but don’t, not treating your body like a temple, ladies should have their head covered and that anyone who commits adultery should be stoned to death.

Leviticus is a holiness code that was written 3,000 years ago, that being said it also prohibits against round haircuts (Leviticus 19:27 “Do not cut the hair at the dies of your head or clip off the edges of your beard”), tattoos (Leviticus 19:28 “You shall not make any cuts in your body for the dead nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves”), working on the Sabbath, wearing garments of mixed fabrics or planning mixed crops (Leviticus 19:19 reads, "You are to keep My statutes. You shall not breed together two kinds of your cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed, nor wear a garment upon you of two kinds of material mixed together."), eating pork or shellfish (Leviticus 11:10 "But whatever is in the seas and in the rivers that does not have fins and scales among all the teeming life of the water, and among all the living creatures that are in the water, they are detestable things to you"), getting your fortune told (Leviticus 19:31 “Do not turn to mediums or spiritists: do not seek them out to be defiled by them”). In Deuteronomy, a marriage is only valid if the woman is a virgin, and she should be executed if she is not. In Mark 10:9 divorce is prohibited ("What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." And Mark 10:11-12, "And He said to them, 'Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery.’").

I believe in morality, which is doing right regardless of what I am told. I don’t believe in religion, which is doing what I am told regardless of what I feel is right. You are most welcome to your viewpoints of the Bible, politics and such, but for me, using the statement “the Bible says so” to justify and judge certain things is not enough. If it applies to some you must apply it to all.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

Fundraiser

The Kinkdom

I had the chance to go to The Kinkdom for the first time. Myself, my lover and our boy had been at the Hayloft and I had done a needle demo there as part of Mr. Friendly's playhouse for Leather Expo. We didnt' know what to expect and actually thought we might be there for maybe 30 minutes at the most. There were not many cars around the place, so again it was "well we will just take a quick look". We were very surprised to find a very nice dungeon space with people to match. Mistress Lilly and her family welcomed us openly and warmly. We had a great conversation, Lepoard give a nice tour and answered all questions that we had. And then she pulled out her violet wand toys. Being a fan and owner myself, we spend quite a bit of time trying out attachments that she had and the wonderful electric rope that Lepoard had made. We shared for almost 3 hours. It was a great time and was warming to know that there are people that really want to give back to the community. I know that we will be visiting The Kinkdom again. Thank you for the time and hospitality that you showed.
The Kinkdom on Facebook

Inferno bound...

So the packing is almost done and the excitement is building.  Tomorrow we head off to Michigan to the resort for Inferno, sponsored by Chicago Hellfire Club.  If you are not familiar with what Inferno is, it is a private invitation only BDSM party that has two sessions.  A - starts on Thursday thru Sunday and B starts Sunday thru Wednesday.  We are doing both sessions, so a week of fun. 250 men that have a wide varitey of interests and tastes but have one thing in common, we all love kink and play.  There are multiple dungeons set up with play gear outside in the woods also.  Lots of fun and fellowship.  Our dance card is filling up quickly already and we haven't even got there.  So will have stories when I get back, but in the mean time thought I would share this photo.  This is the toy pile that we are taking.. no clothing.. just toys.... yeah lots of stuff..... LOTS OF FUN....VEG

Toy boxes all ready to go....
(the cardbox box? contains our shelving unit for the toys.. LOL)

Munch less than impressed

     So I am trying to reach out to the kink community of Toledo.  I am a member of FetLife and found out that there was a group of people that had a group and met for munches on the second Sunday of the month.  I was excited to meet some fellow kinksters and find out what happenings might be going on in the area.  The post said they meet from 7pm until 10pm at a local eating establishment (name withheld for privacy of group) and to look for someone wearing a blue baseball cap with a computer.  Looking forward to the adventure, I went.  I got there about 7:20pm.  I found one person there and he had just finished eating.  He welcomed me and said oh you just missed one person, they ate and left.  I sat down and we chatted a bit.  In their opinion there seemed to be lots of drama with the group around this area.  I asked about events, play parties and such, to which I got a reply that there were a few but they didn't like single men coming, the preferred couples since single men seemed to just stare.  This was the start of that tingle in the back of your spine (spidey sense?).  This person answered questions when I asked but really didn't go out of their way to ask me much of anything.  I then was told, "I was about to leave and you just caught me".  Found that odd since the time listed was 7 -10. about 20 minutes later, another person did show up.  When talking with them, I got a different view of things.  No drama mentioned, different event descriptions and different places to go for demos and such.  My sense is really starting to tingle now.  This new person was nice, but there seemed to be awkward silences at times.  While sitting at the table, my phone indicated that I had a message on FetLife, it was from the second person at the table apologizing for my first munch being what it was.  It was about 8:15 at this time and the second person that arrived was ready to leave.  I said yes I needed to go myself.  So less than an hour later and well before the allotted time, everyone was gone. 

    Now I sit and look back on this.  It was strange, it was short, it had different information and a strange vibe.  I have never really heard of any party / demo that didn't like single people to attend.  I look back on it and am perplexed at what I really learned.  In retrospect, pretty much nothing more than what I could read on the web about other areas (Detroit) that had events and nothing really in this area.  What should one take from this.  Being new to the group, I though I would learn more.  Maybe it was being cautious with a new person, afraid of what might happen.  I am not sure.  One thing I do know, will try this one more time and hope for different results.  If not..... spidey sense might be right...